Expecting Expectations….

A moment of self conversation

“Relax Mom! ….Really?….Was it such a big deal?”

I crunch through the dumped bowl of dry cereal on the floor and pick up most of it attempting to gather most of the mess up with my hands before I vacuum….Grrrrrrr…..tensing in my shoulders…I feel a headache coming on….They start to squeal and dance through the kitchen having a grand old-time…

Wait for it….Wait for it…..and now…”Do you boys have any idea how much work I have to do?”

“I picked up your toys after I asked  you to!” “I even made your bed to be nice” and look at this mess!” “Don’t you even care that I’m tired and would love a nap right now!”

Two Minutes later…after a moment to hide and catch my breath and my heart stop racing…

“Oh good grief…Did I just throw a massive Mommy temper tantrum?…..Why yes I did….what a horrible example…”

Well…can you relate to this? I have had these moment more than I like to admit.

I have had to apologize for my actions towards my children more than I can count…

I know the importance of setting an example…I also know it’s all in perspective…

I have learned very valuable lessons since being a mother.

It’s so easy to become irritable and bothered by all the things that seem to come crashing down around you …noise…dirty dishes ,messes made on the floor… on tables…cleaning up…trying to keep up while everyone else seems to be having a fabulous time around us.

Don’t ever allow your expectations to be stronger for your child than for yourself.

If you can’t control yourself…and in setting that example…how will they learn too?

God has given me this role as a Mother because he knows that I can handle it…..with His help of course.

Although my moments of feeling unappreciated come knocking at my door…

rather our visit should be from the Lord, He comes to spend time with us…and us with Him.

He gives us value and strengthens us in our weak moments.

I’ve learned that I should never rely on my children to fulfill me emotionally.

So many Mothers depend of their children’s love and appreciation…they want to be their friend so badly and gain their acceptance that they forgo the gift of Motherhood and all its beautiful life lessons and love that are planted and can bloom beautifully.

I have found…setting goals…honoring rules made in your home through good discipline and love help prevent a majority

of these feelings of overwhelmed hearts and minds, frustration and feelings of unappreciation.

Set a good example for your children…yes…

but build a strong foundation where they can grow…

where the boundaries create contentment…discipline grows children’s hearts…

and their actions and words reflect that contentment created in a Godly home.

In the end…food messes can be cleaned up….noise can be quieted…

but a true relationship with your children lasts as long as we breath…

let your breath be permeated with words of instruction…kindness…encouragment…and love.

Let your expectation for your children be the Lord’s, and not your own.

Deuteronomy 4:9

9 “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children

Proverbs 14:1

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Galatians 5:22

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,



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4 thoughts on “Expecting Expectations….

  1. Oh Thank you so much! Even though I am not, I often think I am the only one who feels unappreciated! When you wrote about being the one left doing the chores while everyone else laughed and played around you……that is so me! I can’t count the amount of times I have had to apologize to my children for my poor behavior. Some parents think you are nuts for doing that, but I want my kids to know that I make mistakes too, and that we should admit them, ask for forgiveness and move on! Motherhood comes with sacrifice, unconditional love, joy, sadness. The whole bit! God wouldn’t have given us children if we couldn’t handle it! I am so grateful to be a Godly mother, even on those days I do not act it. Parenting through God will make my children better parents than me when it is their turn. Thanks again Liz for these words of wisdom!

  2. Oh yes, I’ve had those Mommy meltdowns more often than I care to admit. And while it is very important for me to try to be an example and not go there in the frist place, I also think my kids learn a lot from seeing an adult be able to say “I’m sorry, I was wrong.”

    Thank you for sharing this post with us today.

  3. Isn’t God’s grace so amazing that not only does He trust us with these little children, but He forgives us when we totally blow it?
    I am so thankful that He is patient with us as we learn daily and sets that example for us so that we might learn ourselves=)

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